Quite often, parents encounter a problem when their 1-3-year-old child bites other children on the playground or in kindergarten, pinches, in other words, behaves aggressively. This is frightening and disturbing. Why is the baby so belligerent?
Why baby bites mom
Staying in the spotlight all the time is very difficult. “Mom is always busy with something, and if I bite her, she will definitely talk to me” - this is an approximate way of reasoning for a crumb that lacks parental attention. The next steps are clear to you. The kid bites his mother, who does not pay attention to him, and she screams and begins to say something to him - the goal is achieved.
The thing is that a baby up to three years old needs not only physical, but also emotional contact with his mother. And she seems to be near, but her thoughts are far away. The child is keenly aware of this and tries to correct the situation. He doesn't care what his mother's emotional reaction will be, the main thing is that she be!
What to do in this case
If demands for attention have become frequent in this way, consider howchange your home routine so that you have enough time for warm, loving and affectionate communication with your child.
If you are very busy, then remove the baby from yourself and calmly, but strictly looking into his eyes, say: “It hurts me. You can't do that. Children don't bite. I'm busy right now, but we'll play with you soon. Remember, your goal is to let your baby know that what he's doing is a serious problem, but don't yell at him, and certainly don't try to bite back.
Baby biting children
If this happens in your presence, then immediately try to separate the quarreling. Even if you know that another kid provoked such a reaction in your child, take care of this child. Comfort him, take pity. Direct all attention to the bitten baby. Ask: Are you in pain? I feel so sorry for you! Your child will understand that he did something unacceptable. Invite him to apologize, and if he persists, then to be alone: “You still don’t know how to behave correctly. But soon you will realize how boring it is when there is no one to play with.”
Child bites children from excess of emotions
Children from one to three years old still have too poor a vocabulary, they often lack words to convey their emotions. It is much easier for a crumb to bite than to think and try to express his resentment or, conversely, an excess of positive feelings. Therefore, you must help him with this, teach him words and gestures that help in this: “I feel bad! I'm sad!" or "Hurrah!" And if he is too angry and offended, let him stamp his foot, break the proposedpiece of paper, bangs his fist on the pillow.
If a child bites children, he must be taken away from the scene and seated alone for a while (1-5 minutes). The kid needs to learn the connection between stopping the game and the fact that he began to bite. In addition, the excitement will pass as long as the baby is alone.
How to help a child
Don't blame your child often. He may get used to it, stop paying attention to your words, or will do everything out of spite. When punishing a child, do not insult him by saying, “You are a bad boy! You are a bully! You should not talk about a bad son or daughter, but about a bad deed, emphasizing that your baby will definitely improve, and each time making it clear that you love him.
Understand, if your child bites children, it means that it is difficult for him to communicate. And your duty is to help the baby and teach him good relations with others.
