Children are the stimulus of life for parents. The appearance of a baby in the family is a new breath for a married couple. From the first day of a baby's life, parents constantly watch him, monitor his development. The ability to communicate with the outside world is the first thing that manifests itself in a child. Over time, these abilities expand, and now the baby is moving from communicating with his mother to communicating with peers. This is clearly manifested even in infancy, when the baby literally reaches out to the children who pass by in the stroller. But what if the child is afraid of everything? In particular, does he prefer to be alone, does not like to communicate with either adults or peers? Is this normal and is it a sign of autism?
Let's put aside fears
Autism is a complex psycho-emotional state. It is quite simple to determine it - the baby eschews touch, has difficulty with motor skills, and does not have the ability to act independently. In other words, you should have noticed first of all that the child is afraid of people, and it all starts with the mother - the baby pushes away and dodges already at the first feedings. However, if there are no accompanying elementsbehavior, speech problems, obsession with certain actions, then your fears are groundless.
Children's fears
According to child psychologists, every child has an instinct for self-preservation, which is reinforced by genetic experience and acquired experience (fire burns, falling hurts). As a rule, the child's fears of something disappear within a few weeks - he gets used to the idea, learns to manage this fear. However, if a child gets hung up on a certain fear, then this is already a neurotic problem that can persist for a lifetime. If a child is afraid of children on the first walk, the first lesson in kindergarten, this is normal. If this becomes a problem for a long time - you notice that the baby shuns peers at school, prefers to play alone in the garden or sandbox - then this problem needs to be addressed. The type of this fear - neurotic or instinctive - can be determined by the accompanying signs. So, when a child is afraid of children and at the same time he has problems with speech (stuttering), with sleep, or he began to wet the bed (enuresis) - this is already a problem that needs to be de alt with.
Dealing with the problem
Four meanings for resolving the situation: affection, conversation, drawing, empathy. First of all, a parent for a baby is his own territory, his own person. Therefore, if you notice that a child is afraid of children, sympathize with him. You can show this in a conversation - it is necessary in detailask him why he is afraid. The more often you do this, the faster the fear will dissipate. Do not forget that the baby expects sincerity from you - share your experience with him, tell him how you coped in such situations. You can focus on drawing - child psychologists have long identified drawing as a reflection of childhood experiences. And, of course, all this must be accompanied by tactile sensations - stroking, kissing, speaking calmly and gently. On the street, it is worth telling the child more often about other children, talking about the benefits of communicating with them. After some time, you will notice that the child is less afraid of children, and after a month the fear will completely disappear.
