Frustration… What is it? This is a state of dissatisfaction that occurs when the expected and the actual do not match, that is, on the way to the desired goal, some insurmountable obstacle arises, which leads to a strong experience.
A frustrated person finds an outlet for his feelings either through aggression directed at others, or despair and withdrawn, blaming himself.
The phenomenon was studied by such scientists as Simonov, Maslow, Freud, many behaviorists. Needs were defined and expectations associated with them identified. Needs are biological, social, ideal (spiritual). If a person cannot satisfy any need, then he has mental stress, which leads to frustration. In other words, frustration is emotional stress.
Consequences
Frustration is the trigger for conflict. Destructive behavior is directed at another person or object (such people destroy everything,break). A persistent individual who knows how to analyze the situation and control himself will try to use external conditions and his internal forces to find the best options for getting out of the current situation. On the contrary, a person who does not know how to control himself, at the moment of the onset of a frustration situation, becomes impulsive, loses self-control, gets angry, scandals, insults, and can use physical force.
Sometimes a person reacts to the situation by leaving. Aggression does not manifest itself openly, but is compensated by psychological barriers, such as sublimation (aggression - sport, sex - creativity); fantasy (dreams, dream world); rationalization (intellectual justification of one's behavior). In some cases, a person begins to regress, i.e. replaces a difficult, unattainable task with an easier one. Fixation occurs when an individual becomes obsessed with an unattained goal, resulting in complete paralysis of activity (cannot think about anything else, cannot do anything).
Main frustration reasons
Interpersonal relationships:
- Relationships in the family (household problems, money, children).
- Relationships at work (the discrepancy between the work expended and the remuneration received leads to dissatisfaction with superiors, colleagues, etc.).
- Sexual relations (excitement finds no outlet, discharge).
Frustration is a traumatic situation. It triggers a certain behavior:
- destruction and aggression;
- apathy;
- longarousal;
- fixed behavior (stereotype);
- regression.
Frustration. Treatment
Frustration is not a disease and cannot be cured. In order to understand the situation that led to dissatisfaction, disappointment, the collapse of hopes, you need to have the ability to introspect. Psychotherapists advise to "roll" the situation back, like a film, and try to imagine all the events in a different way, that is, paint a different picture with a positive ending. This is necessary for a speedy exit from the state of frustration.
In sexual relations, frustration can lead to neurotic disorders, sleep disturbance, hysteria, sexual dysfunction. If you do not turn to a psychologist or psychotherapist in time, then serious consequences are possible, up to impotence in men and sexual coldness in women. At best, couples break up.
To overcome the state of frustration, you need to develop resilience, the ability to analyze the situation and accept it as another experience, not a blow of fate.
