Aggressive behavior in itself is unpleasant, and not only to others who are suddenly plunged into negativity, but also to the aggressors themselves. In fact, among the latter there are not so many clinical villains who enjoy splashing violent emotions on other people or objects. Normal people are also capable of such outbursts, but then they experience remorse, try to make amends for their guilt, and at least try to control themselves. Aggression is especially destructive in men, the reasons for this can be so far-fetched and strange that the existence of a problem becomes obvious to all participants in the situation.
Types and types of male aggression
It should be noted right away that negative emotions spilling out are not exclusively a male prerogative. Women are just as capable of being aggressors, they do not follow their actions and words. The paradox is that male aggression is partly consideredsocially acceptable. Of course, extreme manifestations are condemned, but there are many justifications for such a phenomenon as aggression in men. The reasons can be very diverse - from competition to he alth conditions.
Two main types of aggression that are easily identified even by non-specialists:
- verbal, when the negative is expressed in a cry or frankly negative vocabulary;
- physical, when there is beating, destruction, attempted murder.
With auto-aggression, the negative is directed at itself, manifesting itself as all sorts of destructive actions. The motto of this type of aggression is: "Make it worse for me."
Psychologists classify the destructive behavior we are considering into several types according to the following criteria: method of manifestation, direction, causes, degree of expression. Self-diagnosis in this case is practically impossible, since in most cases the aggressor seeks self-justification, does not see and does not want to see the problem, and successfully shifts the blame to others.
Verbal aggression
External manifestations of this type of aggression are quite expressive. It can be a furious cry, curses and curses. Often they are complemented by gestural expression - a man can make insulting or threatening gestures, shake his fist, and swing. In the animal world, males actively use this type of aggression: who growls louder, then declares himself as the owner of the territory, it comes to outright fights much less often.
However, verbal aggression in men, the causes of which may lie both in mental he alth and in social pressure, is not so harmless. It destroys the psyche of those who are forced to live nearby. Children get used to the abnormal pattern of communication, imbibe the pattern of their father's behavior as the norm.
Physical aggression
An extreme form of aggressive behavior, when a person moves from screaming and threats to active physical actions. Now it is not just a threatening swing of the fist, but a blow. In a fit of rage, a man is capable of causing serious injury to even the closest people, breaking or breaking personal belongings. Man behaves like Godzilla, and destruction becomes his main goal. It can be either a short explosion, literally for one blow, or a nightmare for many hours, which is why aggression in men is considered the most dangerous. The reasons are very different - from "she provoked me" to "I'm a man, you can't make me angry."
When wondering how this is permissible, it is best to take the Criminal Code as a guide. It says in black and white that bodily injury of varying severity, attempted murder, and intentionally causing harm to personal property are all crimes.
Features of unmotivated male aggression
It is conditionally possible to divide manifestations of rage into motivated and unmotivated. One can understand and partially justify the aggression shown in the heat of passion. This is often referred to as "righteous anger". If somebodyoffends the relatives of this man, encroaches on their life and he alth, then the aggressive response is at least understandable.
The problem is such attacks of aggression in men, the causes of which cannot be calculated at a glance. What got into him? I had just been a normal person, and suddenly they changed it! Witnesses of a sudden unmotivated rage that erupts in any form, verbal or physical, respond approximately like this. In fact, any act has a reason, explanation or motive, but they are not always on the surface.
Reasons or excuses?
Where is the line between reasons and excuses? As an example, we can cite such a phenomenon as the aggression of a man towards a woman. The reasons are often the most common attempts to justify themselves, to shift the blame to the victim: “Why was she late after work? She must be cheating, she needs to be shown the place!” aggression.
Behind such behavior can be both personal hatred for a certain person, and banal misogyny. If a man seriously considers women to be second-class people, then is it worth being surprised at the vicious attacks against them?
However, outbursts of aggression can take place not because a man is just an evil type. In addition to far-fetched excuses, there are also good reasons due to serious factors that can be identified and eliminated.
Hormonal levels
A large proportion of aggressive manifestations are due to hormonal imbalance. Our emotions are largely determined by the ratio of the main hormones, a lack or excess can lead not only to violent outbursts, but also to severe depression, to a pathological lack of emotions and severe psychiatric problems.
Testosterone is traditionally considered a hormone not only of sexual desire, but also of aggression. About especially sharp and vicious men, they often say “testosterone male”. A chronic lack of dopamine and serotonin leads to an increase in dissatisfaction, makes a person prone to negative manifestations. Outbreaks of aggression in men, the causes of which lie precisely in hormonal imbalances, must be treated. To do this, tests are given for the level of hormones, a disease is detected that has led to violations. Symptomatic treatment in this case brings only partial relief and cannot be considered complete.
Midlife Crisis
If such cases have not been observed before, then sudden aggression in a 35-year-old man can most often be associated with a midlife crisis. The age of maximalism is left behind, and the man begins to weigh whether all the decisions made were really correct, whether it was a mistake. Literally everything falls into doubt: is this a family, is this a woman, is the right direction chosen in a career? Or maybe it was worth going to another institute and then marrying another, or not marrying at all?
Doubt andfluctuations, a keen sense of missed opportunities - all this loosens the nervous system, reduces the level of tolerance and sociability. It begins to seem that there is still time to change everything in one jerk. Everyone around seemed to agree, they do not understand this spiritual impulse. Well, after all, they can be put in their place by force, since they do not understand good. Fortunately, the midlife crisis passes sooner or later. The main thing is to remember that periods of despondency are normal, but this is not a reason to break your life.
Retirement Depression
The second round of the age crisis overtakes men after retirement. Women most often endure this period easier - a solid part of everyday worries remains with them. But men who are accustomed to their profession as a central part of the life story begin to feel unnecessary, abandoned. Life stopped, the respect of others turned off along with the receipt of a pension certificate.
Aggression in men after 50 is closely related to attempts to shift the responsibility for a failed life to others. At the same time, objectively, the man who suddenly caught the demon in the rib is all right, but there is a certain dissatisfaction. At the same time, all sorts of he alth problems, overwork, lack of sleep can be added - all these factors exacerbate the situation. Aggressive attacks begin to seem like a natural reaction to everything that happens.
Psychiatry or psychology?
To whom to go for help - to a psychologist or immediately to a psychiatrist? A lot of menafraid of their aggressive impulses, not without reason fearing to do something irreparable. And it is very good that they are able to relatively soberly evaluate their actions and seek help from professionals. Who is involved in such a phenomenon as aggression in men? Causes and treatment are in the department of the psychiatrist exactly as long as he does not confirm that according to his profile the patient has no problems. This is precisely the correct approach to treatment by such a specialist: you can safely make an appointment without fear that you will be “dressed as crazy”. A psychiatrist is first and foremost a doctor, and he first checks to see if any completely physical factors affect the patient's psyche: hormones, old injuries, sleep disturbance. A psychiatrist can recommend a good psychologist if the patient does not have problems that require medication.
The first step to solving the problem
To a large extent, the strategy for solving a problem depends on who exactly makes this decision. Aggression in a man … What should a woman do, who is nearby, lives with him in the same house, brings up common children? Yes, of course, you can fight, convince, help, but if the situation develops in such a way that you have to constantly endure assault and risk losing your life, it is better to save yourself and save the children.
As a man, the best first step is to admit there is a problem. It’s worth being honest with yourself: aggression is a problem that needs to be de alt with firstthe aggressor himself, not his victims.
Possible consequences of aggression and complex work on oneself
We have to admit that in places of deprivation of liberty there are often prisoners who have precisely this vice - unreasonable aggression in men. Reasons need to be eliminated, but excuses have no power and weight. It is worth taking control of yourself, but not relying only on self-control. If the outbursts of rage are repeated, then the reason may lie in a violation of the hormonal balance. It can be overwork, chronic lack of sleep, depressive manifestations, as well as social pressure, an unbearable rhythm of life, age-related changes, some chronic diseases. Seeing a doctor is a sure step to help deal with destructive behavior. Separate the reasons from the excuses, this will help outline the initial plan of action, and soon life will sparkle with new colors.
