You can often hear that a person is afraid of people. Such people suffer from a lack of confidence and create a vicious circle around themselves. Fear of people is one of the types of human phobias, social phobia. To get rid of it, you need experience, you need to communicate a lot, but because of fear, it is very difficult to do this.
When a person is afraid of people, he is afraid of everyone and everything: he is afraid to communicate with new people, he is uncomfortable in noisy companies, he can hardly even make a phone call. Any situation in which he has to resort to communication makes him pretty nervous.
But all people can change. Therefore, if a person is afraid of people, but wants to overcome this shortcoming, he will have to make a lot of effort and go through a difficult path. The main thing is to have an incentive.
So, first you need to understand the background and causes of fear.
Why am I afraid of people?
As a rule, the fear of communication is the fear of the young. Such a phobia rarely develops after the age of twenty. It mostly occurs in teenagers.during school years (from the age of 10). This is due to childish cruelty, when a whole class poisons one loser, and the cruelty of teachers who make fun of losers, and a harsh school system based on public reprimands in front of all peers …
The reason that a person is afraid of people may be the detached, cold or completely indifferent attitude of parents towards him in childhood or psychological trauma received due to problems in the family.
And there are cases when it is not possible to determine the cause of fear of people at all.
What is the most common fear of people who suffer from social phobia?
Convictions. Failure. Shame. People are afraid of being misunderstood or, even worse, ridiculed and humiliated in society. A person who suffers from such a disorder always seems to be watching him all the time and waiting for him to make a mistake and do something wrong. He is always unsure of his actions and behavior, he is afraid and ashamed. Well, very low self-esteem only exacerbates the situation. All this leads to the fact that a person closes in himself and avoids communication. But without communication you will never get the necessary experience and you will not get rid of fear.
Therefore, the way out in such a situation is to face your fear face to face: get out of your "case" and gain communication experience.
Fighting fear
In this case, you can go to special training seminars, where they teach all the intricacies of communication and overcomingtheir fears. Be sure to find out the coordinates of local training centers and sign up for a few classes. After them it will be much easier to overcome your fears and complexes.
You can contact a specialist psychologist. Today, hypnosis, behavioral therapy, self-hypnosis and other methods are very effective means of dealing with such fears. Thanks to them, it is possible to identify the causes of social phobia and develop a way to deal with them.
You can use special "fear pills". Beta blockers are very popular these days. These medications help manage fear and also reduce its symptoms (trembling voice or sweaty palms).
And remember that your efforts on yourself are worth it! After all, free communication brings great joy and opens up great prospects and opportunities both in your career and in your personal life.
